40 Things to Do Before I Turn 40 (10)

10. Write a blog

Writing a blog was originally something I planned to do at the very end of this journey. The idea was that once the year was over, once I’d done the healing and processed all the emotions, I would sit down and release it all in one final piece.

But somewhere along the way, the words started arriving earlier than expected.

The more intentional I became with my routines, my healing, and the changes I was making in my life, the more I found myself writing. Entire blog posts would form in my head while driving, walking, or lying awake at night – almost as though I was trying to explain to myself why I was doing all of this in the first place.

It wasn’t some huge, dramatic awakening. It was quieter than that.

I just noticed that once I started putting the words down, they kept flowing.

I filled handwritten notebooks with thoughts and reflections. I typed endlessly. In spare moments, I’d open the notes app on my phone and quickly write down whatever was sitting on my heart before it disappeared again. My voice memo folder started overflowing with ideas – reflections, processing, reckonings with myself that I could no longer keep quiet in my own mind.

This blog is very honest, very open, and very me.

It has become part of the way I’m moving forward in life – intentionally creating distance between myself and old memories, old versions of me, and feelings I no longer want to carry in silence. Writing has been cathartic. My trauma feels less trapped inside my body when it exists on paper instead.

I’ve also been incredibly supported throughout this process by my beautiful psychologist, who gently reminds me to feel the feelings, honour them, but then put them down again instead of living inside them forever.

This blog is part of something bigger that I’m quietly working toward and hoping to finish this year too. But for now, these are simply my musings – pieces of myself scattered across pages.

I don’t expect my words to heal anyone else or change lives in some dramatic way. This is ultimately for me. But if someone reads it and feels seen, understood, or a little less alone, then that’s a beautiful bonus too.

We’re officially a quarter of the way through my 40 things now – still so much more to come.

But if there’s one thing this process is teaching me, it’s that consistency and intentionality really do change a life, little by little.

🤍 K